Alcohol Problem

[garry1312]

as far as i am aware you may have to reduce your daily intake of alcohol,maybe if your drinking at home and you use a big glass use a smaller one and gradually wean yourself off,i would deffo not mix pills and booze as too many other great people have gone before you,amy,michael,whitney,please dont follow them.

I know mate I had the pills for sleeping but then obviously with my drinking I was taking them. Then I got hives which is a side effect of zopiclone and i read that zopiclones side effects are doubled if mixed with alcohol so I decided to use diazepam instead, I basically as CB said started eating them like smarties and since taking them I really have no memory of one day from the next.

What a fool I am, I have a cheek to look down on heroin addicts etc..... I am no better.

[cactikid]

dont give up hope m8 there maybe some glimmer of hope thats all we can say its a target to reach.

[Belloriccoefamoso]

you have to do this for yourself but evenif seem he no need u anymore in real yoru son (from 0 to 40 years old) have a desperate need of you
this is for sure
maybe not today or next week or next month...but next year...
he need you, the father....and the mother is protecting him but belive me if she will see you exit from this problem...
maybe you will no take herheart anymore but for sure her respect...
think to your son any time you have a glass in front of you...

[garry1312]

dont give up hope m8 there maybe some glimmer of hope thats all we can say its a target to reach.

I wont lie to myself mate i have lost CB the love of my life that I have treated like shite, I have lost her.

But my target can be getting better for my son I wish I could flick a switch and have all this gone.

Damn this is the most emotional threat I have ever had on DK.

[garry1312]

you have to do this for yourself but evenif seem he no need u anymore in real yoru son (from 0 to 40 years old) have a desperate need of you
this is for sure
maybe not today or next week or next month...but next year...
he need you, the father....and the mother is protecting him but belive me if she will see you exit from this problem...
maybe you will no take herheart anymore but for sure her respect...
think to your son any time you have a glass in front of you...

I will do that mate thank you

[Belloriccoefamoso]

i hope u not only say it just now because into an emotional time but even tomorrow...and after tomorrow...and even if near a glass of something....
your son first
i'm father of a little 3yo man and i see his eyes when i arrive home after a day of work, his smile, his desire to ask me about trains, motorbikes, engines....how he look at me as at his PAPA' (father)
for him i'm like GOD....and i feel this like the most important thing in the world... sometime i cry for this...
your son first, your son....

[garry1312]

i hope u not only say it just now because into an emotional time but even tomorrow...and after tomorrow...and even if near a glass of something....
your son first
i'm father of a little 3yo man and i see his eyes when i arrive home after a day of work, his smile, his desire to ask me about trains, motorbikes, engines....how he look at me as at his PAPA' (father)
for him i'm like GOD....and i feel this like the most important thing in the world... sometime i cry for this...
your son first, your son....

Im going to fight it mate I am going to take action tomorrow withiout a doubt.

[tshirtman]

I know it sounds a bit hippyish, but a support group or counsellor will help, especially if your estranged from your family, your going to have bad days, and someone to talk to will help,

another thing that will help with urges is sweet sugary food and drinks(milkshakes are good), when you stop drinking your blood sugars drop and that is something your body will crave for,

your feeling guilty at the moment, but don't keep beating yourself up, we can all look at our life with hindsight, but it wont help,

set yourself some targets/goals, and start with a visit to the docs, keep a picture of your lad with you, if you feeling like shit get it out and tell yourself, this is why your doing this, keep positive.

[garry1312]

I know it sounds a bit hippyish, but a support group or counsellor will help, especially if your estranged from your family, your going to have bad days, and someone to talk to will help,

another thing that will help with urges is sweet sugary food and drinks(milkshakes are good), when you stop drinking your blood sugars drop and that is something your body will crave for,

your feeling guilty at the moment, but don't keep beating yourself up, we can all look at our life with hindsight, but it wont help,

set yourself some targets/goals, and start with a visit to the docs, keep a picture of your lad with you, if you feeling like shit get it out and tell yourself, this is why your doing this, keep positive.

Hey mate found this chatroom called stepchat.com for alcoholics seems ok some members are AA all the way and others have some really good support, others are just a pain. But the ones that are being really supportive are a blessing

I will set myself targets mate and visit my doc (our doc surgery is a nightmare though for appointments)

I'll overcome this I am making myself that promise

[gmb45]

been there done it all gaz, and more than likely a lot worse than you, firstly until you can see your doctor DONT just stop drinking it can cause alcoholic fits, reduce it gradually if you have been hitting it hard, but i would knock the diazapam and zopiclones on the head because your playing russian roulette mixing them with alcohol, ask the doc about librium(Chlordiazepoxide), this will help a lot with the dts ( shakes ) also ask him about help you can get forget AA its shite but theres other places that offer help i know ive been to them,talking about it with other people in the same boat helps a lot, like you gaz the demon drink has cost me a lot over the years, jobs, relationships, homes, self respect etc etc etc, its has took me a long time to sort it out, so dont worry if you fall off the wagon a few times while your in "recovery" it happens to most people, just keep at it you will get there in the end, also ask the doc about anti-depressants for a while as im sure your feeling rock bottom at the moment, also i would avoid going out with people who like to drink this will lead to to much temptation for you at the moment, try to find something to do to keep your mind occupied it does help, and remember you not alone, theres lots of people with drink problems and lots more that dont admit to it, keep at it m8 you will get there in the end, pm me if you want ask anything in private and good luck m8 a really mean that

[ecufix]

Hi Gary as mentioned above you are already on your way to recovery by acknowledging the problem , join the local AA and you sure to get the support and advice from many people in the same boat , work on getting CB and son back,best regards and good luck.

[aftermath]

Gaz , look into detoxing your body, and just drink 2 or 3 days a week, i also drink too much alcohol according to my doctor, so i can now drink green tea or peppermint tea or water 4 days a week, and enjoy a few beers over the weekend ( also vodka and diet drinks, coke, 7 up e.t.c. ).

Its all about will power m8, and you will feel much better and gain more energy.

once you start feeling better your confidence will grow.

on the 3 drink nights , just have a maximum of 4 cans, or instead make a bottle of vodka last the 3 days, the 4 days off you will feel much better for it. and still can look foreward to a drink, or better again, you and cb, and your son can try looking forward to 1 night a week going out for lunch, just a starter to try get back on track.

i can take it or leave it , but look forward to 3 days drinking but i know when to stop.

i have a great dettox plan diet, and can drink 8 pints on 2 days a week if you need it pm me, i paid a nutritionist to set it up for me and its very healthy.

[Shady]

this may sound harsh, but cb leaving you may be the best thing for you right now.
i know when my dad had problems with the drink, we all stopped going to see him, which forced him to get his drinking down to an acceptable level

[Snowy79]

Sorry to hear about the position you are in. As has been said you've made the first big step. The only advice I can give is to find something to take your mind and body away from your vices. Try to break the cycle you are in even if it's just going out the front door without any pills etc in your pocket. Pick a walking route that will take you an hour away from your house and stick to it. An hour out and an hour back will give your body a bit of a break without straining your body. Ditch the crowd you hang around with as I can bet there will be a couple of people hanging around that will be of no help to you. Start with ditching where you get your pills from.

I hope CB and your lad are also getting the help they need. My Daughter is my life and I'd give anything for her, overcome your problems for your kids and your sake. And for those clowns on here that keep trying to justify drugs etc I hope they read this and realise that it's not all a bed of roses. Innocent people get affected by their actions.

[super jumbe]

Sorry to hear this garry1312 I have lots of friends they have lost every thing from bad habits like drinking and gambling, as the worse gets your family get alcohol abuse and when they can not take trouble any more they live you on your own.

Now is the time for you to get help, you will have to work very hard towards solving your drinking problem as you have children and they need all the help you can give them but you are helpless to do that.

Your family is your asset look after them and they will look after you.

Get all the help you can and I wish you recover soon and your family to join you.

Remember all the dk members are also trying to help you, that what we are hear for.