Alcohol Problem

[aleister crowley]

That boat has sailed sadly mate I am under no false illusions.

I hate these dt's but the diazepam is helping in a way but you wish they would just remove the symptoms and not leave you feeling buzzing if that makes sense.

You never know garry. She's loved you through the bad times and that takes a commitment that not a lot of women will show. She's frightened mate but both for you and your son.
You need to show her that you are serious about this and I don't doubt it. You've done extremely well up to now and just take it one day at a time.

Keep going. We are all rooting for you to come out of this.

[happy_highlander]

Well done mate that's another one in the bag...You are well on the way to each day getting easier...As strong as you feel I think the pub was a bit brave at this early stage and I'm glad it worked out for you, but on the other hand that's another feather in your cap and another challenge set and passed, keep up the good work.

[garry1312]

You never know garry. She's loved you through the bad times and that takes a commitment that not a lot of women will show. She's frightened mate but both for you and your son.
You need to show her that you are serious about this and I don't doubt it. You've done extremely well up to now and just take it one day at a time.

Keep going. We are all rooting for you to come out of this.

That's it though mate she dont love me anymore there's nothing I can do to change that she has said so as much herself, she will never be with me again.

She doesnt believe that my behaviour is down to alcohol and black outs and the ~~~~ed up frame of mind.

When me and Chelsea first got together I took cocaine regularly,
amphetamines, ecstasy and smoked cannabis (still have the odd smoke) but I gave all that up for a life with her. The one thing I never managed to tackle was the drink I have always been a heavy drinker from the moment I started drinking.

When I took cocaine I was on a high wage and using it a lot managed to pack that in, stopped smoking on the 30th of January there and was a heavy smoker now I am going to tackle the drink and I will win that battle also.

Well done mate that's another one in the bag...You are well on the way to each day getting easier...As strong as you feel I think the pub was a bit brave at this early stage and I'm glad it worked out for you, but on the other hand that's another feather in your cap and another challenge set and passed, keep up the good work.

Well mate although I have a good career I also used to work as a barman and even at the same time with my career I loved that line of work, I want to get back in to it and knock my good career in the head as its lately crushed me. So I dont want to be scared of bars or pouring someone else a drink in a job manner or for this addiction to say i cant socialise in bars.

Seriously is it just me or is these dt's worse at night I have been reasonably ok today and as said a valium helped but right now its getting bad again and there not helping.

[Canker_Canison]

Wow, that lot took some reading.

I've never had a problem with alcohol, except the inability to keep it in my stomach. It's been over 12 years since I last drank. Now I'm not, or ever will be, an alcoholic so can't possibly begin to understand what it's like. But when things get to me I do feel the urge to drink. But my goal is to stay tea total... I hope you show the same determination you are now when you slip a little.

I have no magical cure for your relationship. But I'd be surprised if CB has lost all of her feelings for you. What's more likely is that she's building a mental wall to try & protect herself. That & keep you at a distance while things settle down. It's obvious you are trying to shield yourself from the possibility of rekindling your relationship, but there might still be a chance. It will probably take longer to regain her trust than it does to kick the worst of the withdrawls... Just don't close your heart to her completely.

There are a lot of good people on DK, use them. Being alone during any mental problem is never easy. During my depression days I took solace in my dog...I talked to her for hours. You have with you the best friend you could ever want. So when you feel down, talk to the dog... share your fears & worries with a feeling creature that can't repeat what it hears.


Good luck

[gmb45]

sound ya doing brill m8, after today ya should be feeling something like, as a rule 3 days to get over the dts, stick with it your nearly there

[happy_highlander]

Don't get me wrong mate, I didn't mean to stay out of bars, I still go to the pub quite a lot but day 2 can be the hardest, but your past it and todays a new day, the same grit and determination you have showed for the past couple of days will get you through the next couple and as gmb says your almost through the dt's and to answer your other question my dt's were all day but I used to drink all day, as you said you used start when you got in from work so it'll just be the little habit demons making you feel worse in the evening. For me it was worse first thing in the morning cause that's when the first can used to make all the pain go away. Chin up mate your fighting a good fight.

[mouss800]

hi Gary

i would like to say that you have done already the first step , which is admitting that alcohol has caused alot of trouble .
trust me , we have been brought up in a soceity thinking that we cant live with out alcohol, which is wrong . water , most defintely but not alcohol.
it is just a matter of how strong you need to be to get rid of it. alcohol brings you nothing , other than being and act silly and the worst of all become an alcoholic. plus the amount of money that costs .

think of this way, how could i pay for the poison i take . it is poison, alcohol, cuase it brings no benefit at all. like you said , you have lost yr family .
is it really worth it? just get rid of the damn habit. and start surrounding yr self by non drinking friends . which there are many of out there .
good luck to you dude and i hope yr family will see that and try to help you and not make feel abandened .
but i will say this , dont do it just for the family , do it for yr self first and you will get rid of it

thnx

[cactikid]

wow garry you are doing better than expected,pity about gmbh45 advertising his beers, like a carrot and the donkey on his posts ,there are plenty of friends for you and cb which i also sent a pm of support for both of you and not to give up,all i can say is keep at it as there are brighter days ahead.

[gmb45]

wow garry you are doing better than expected,pity about gmbh45 advertising his beers, like a carrot and the donkey on his posts ,there are plenty of friends for you and cb which i also sent a pm of support for both of you and not to give up,all i can say is keep at it as there are brighter days ahead.

av got the beer cracked m8 when a go into pubs now days its for food n tea yes your reading it right and the odd pint of shandy pubs days for me is some where to stop off when im out in the peak district walking, dont get me wrong i have a few cans a night, but always know where to draw the line, very different from 6 years ago when i would drink till in a coma

[cactikid]

yep i also go to the pub 5 days a week but only for food and the scenery ,make it 4 days this week.

[happy_highlander]

You lot must all be ~~~~in loaded going to pub that often. What pisses me of more than anything is that when I go to the bar for a round of drinks it costs me as much for my pint of fresh orange and lemonade as does for the pints of beer for the other lads. Where's the ~~~~in incentive not to drink?? We now have an agreement though where I take the car and they buy the fresh orange

[rds60h]

Gary1312, Sorry for your situation but I must praise you for admitting the problem and started taking action.My late brother was an alcoholic and unfortunately it is a life long thing but he did beat the drinking (he died from a heart problem - not the alcohol).
Keep doing what you are doing, everything in your life can change around even those things you now think are impossible.
As for the DTs, you may also get anxiety tremors which you may think are the DTs so a word with the doctor to explain may help. I have Depression and Anxiety and suffer with anxiety tremors so I know what you mean about the tremors they do get to you.
Stick at it and good luck to you.

[blueflash234]

garry i came from a town 10 miles from you and you know the pub is a way of life its where you do everything, the hard thing is weaning yourself of the lifestyle and participating in a new lifestyle there's a lot more to life than the pub you just have to find a good balance thats will suit you and move forward ,,good luck m8

[ploob]

one of my family friends was a heavy drinker, but after his beautiful daughter was born, he stopped for awhile to take care of her.
after awhile he couldn't take it anymore and continued drinking. His grandchild will be due in a few months and hopefully he'll stop soon as well. the birth of a child is magical.

[garry1312]

not drank today again guys once again had family up went to my fav place with the fav pint never had a drink go me. I am actually starting to enjoy fighting this now its not easy but its like saying a '~~~~ you' to a big scary monster without fear .