Unhappy in Marriage

[ste6106]

If you were unhappy would you use a affair dating site, just heard on talksport there are such websites!

[ManofScience]

i think it's pretty bad that someone is unhappy but would rather stay in the marriage and have an affair rather than do the decent thing for both people involved. basically having your cake and eating it - it's pretty cowardly.

fair enough, you find someone else who makes you feel happy then you realise your marriage is in trouble , things like that can't be helped.

if things can't be fixed or those involved don't want to fix it - do everyone a favour and be honest.


edit : Still, post any pics of any tidy women u find on any of these sites

[manxspud]

Simple answer is NO. I'm sure we all ave a wine and moan now and again... but to be honest this is probably the only morel standard i have. Marriage is about trust both ways... without it whats the point... none to my mind. Mrs @manx is a decent lass and a bl**dy good mother... After 19yrs together i would not risk it all for a few cheap thrills.

[firestorm]

i agree mrs firestorm has been there for 17 years and she is still a good shot with the frying pan at 20 yards

[Timmaa]

I suppose it depends on the people involved?

Speaking for myself; there's no way on Earth I'd ever mess about on my missus. conversely, if she did it to me I'd make her dig her own hole.

But if some people come to a mutual arrangement for the sake of finances, the kids or whatever, and it "works"... who am I to judge? For all we know both husband and wife could advertising be on the same site!

+1 for the pics BTW!

[Lainie]

if relationship (marriage) was dead and had to live under the same roof due to finanical problems etc i wouldnt rule it out. however id be open and honest about it and people would know my marriage was over etc. wont say anymore as its a bit raw for me atm.

[maca]

i am very lucky and honoured to be with mrs maca for the past 20 odds years. this is an absolute fact cos she told me so..

[chroma]

Nope.

Plain and simple nope.

You made the vow to be monogamous (without a gun to your head i might add) its your duty to stick to that.

It should be noted that im not a firm believer or even a great fan of the concept of "God." that being said i firmly believe marriage to be sacred.
Not for the fact that it's primarily a religious ceremony but due to the fact that EVERYONE whos important to you is there to witness you giving your word and subsequently there to judge you throughout the rest of your days in regards to your ability to live up to it.

People seem quick to forget that marriage isnt just a trust issue between two people but in fact is a bond of trust and honour between an entire community. Cheating effectively portrays you not only an asshole in the eyes of your partner but as an amoral, dishonest and untrustworthy person in the eyes of the entire community.

If youve broken a bond as simple as "dont put your cock in anything else" whos to say your not stealing, breaking business deals or otherwise up to something else dishonourable?

If your adult enough to come to the desicion to tie yourself down to another person for the rest of your life, then it goes without saying you should be adult and responsable enough to talk through problems with your wife or husband.
Anything less makes you a weak and entirely immature person.
No longer love your partner? fine, discuss it then move on from there, your in a marriage, and like a team there should be no selfish motives, theres US to consider instead of single old ME.
This in my eyes is where pople go seriously wrong, the majority of the population is too caught up with self importance and selfish motives to be mature enough to be married.

Take my marriage for instance, we got on great, never argued, did everything together untill one moring i woke up and she was a completely different person. she then subsequently vaished without a trace. no explination, no discussion, nothing.
I spent a long time pondering over that, wondering what exactly had gone wrong.
Piecing together parts from friends and family i know exactly what went on there, but the fact remains that she didnt even have enough moral fiber to discuss is face to face paints her in a weak and completely unfavourable light.
Hardly an adult way to end things.

So i sit now waiting on the mail regarding a divorce that will almost certainly never arrive.
Id apply for one myself but like i said i have no idea where she lives and no desire to find out, i frankly dont trust myself with that information due to the way it all wound up.
Im more than happy to ensure out paths never cross again, theres less "Leviticus 20:10" involved that way.

[manxspud]

Sorry to hear about your experience @chroma... but its good to hear that it has not changed your mind on your morels bud. got to admit i'm not a fan of the whole putting to death thing myself... anyhow am sure you will be better off in the long term and hope you find someone more worthy bud.

regards @manx

[ste6106]

Sorry to hear that Chroma, The topic was raised and provoked some jaw dropping moments, I was amazed that some folk go off looking for affairs and such. I myself am getting married next year and am looking forward to it, But I know I have a bond where we would be able to discuss things openly no matter hoe bad, well i hope this to be the case,