Being A Parent

[hoggy952]

Just finished watching Amy Winehouse's fathers documentary about living with a famous daughter and obviously the not inconsiderable heart ache the poor guy must go through due to her much publicised issues with a variety of substances. After watching the program I have no doubt that the guy is almost definitely due a heart attack.

Something he said that most definitely resonated with me was his parting statement in the documentary. '' I must learn and accept that I cannot be there to protect her all of the time''. And that has stuck with me. As a father to a daughter, when/ how do you let go? If indeed you can ever let go. My parents must have done it, or did a damn good job of faking it. But I can see me struggling with the exact same problem that Ms W's father has. What makes me worry is that I can see it killing him

As I type this my daughter is sat in the lounge with her boyfriend. My wife tells me he is a lovely lad and in fairness he comes from a good family and is extremely courteous and polite whenever we have spoken. Certainly not your average chav. He seems to treat my daughter well and makes her happy. So why the f##k do I want to steam in there and take his head off with a baseball bat ?


Obviously my wifes parents went through this with me and came out the other side, but I just wonder how fathers of daughters cope.

[patkins]

Hoggy, your anxiety is no different to any parents ,including myself with a 19 yr. old son. We probably base it on our own actions or thoughts that we did or had at their age. I don`t suppose we ever want to let go because the kids are soprecious to us. It`s human instinct.

[dosyoldcoot]

I worry about my two daughters (35 & 40) and what lies ahead for them in this crappy world of ours. I think worry is just a curse of being a parent, whatever age you or your children are. But of course it is natural for a caring father/mother.

Doc

[hoggy952]

At least I am not the only one that feels like this,thanks pat and doc at least you,ve eased my mind a little.

[davieboy.rfc]

my eldest daughter is 21 & she has been with her boyfriend for 6 years obviosly i was concerned and thought they where gettin 2 serious 2 soon but hes not a bad lad works as a joiner and treats her well ,if e didnt he knows i would ~~~~in kill him

[maca]

well i have 2 big lads 17 and 20 the eldest very rarely goes out drinking and my youngest might go out twice a fortnight. both are over 6.2 in height but i still worry my self silly when there out. i suppose it's just all part of being a responsible parent.

[melloned]

My little girl (26 now !) and still at home , was swept off her feet (age 17) , by a bodybuilding , brainless , moron , who used her for 2 years , then dumped her and moved on to his next challenge , I'd have happily murdered him ( but we had a family hug instead!) .
8 years on and both she (and me !) , have matured , she's been with another lad who loves her to bits (3 years together now) and he'd die for her !
But i'm still mistrustng ! (being a dad !) , my missus has to keep reminding me what her mum and dad thought of me , when she introduced me ( i was a trog! ) , waist length hair , embroided loons (anyone remember them?) , i looked like Jesus himself !
But it's our 30th wedding anniversary this year ! , so we've not done bad . Who knows what relationships bring , you've just got to ride with it !

[thered]

Just finished watching Amy Winehouse's fathers documentary about living with a famous daughter and obviously the not inconsiderable heart ache the poor guy must go through due to her much publicised issues with a variety of substances. After watching the program I have no doubt that the guy is almost definitely due a heart attack.

Something he said that most definitely resonated with me was his parting statement in the documentary. '' I must learn and accept that I cannot be there to protect her all of the time''. And that has stuck with me. As a father to a daughter, when/ how do you let go? If indeed you can ever let go. My parents must have done it, or did a damn good job of faking it. But I can see me struggling with the exact same problem that Ms W's father has. What makes me worry is that I can see it killing him

As I type this my daughter is sat in the lounge with her boyfriend. My wife tells me he is a lovely lad and in fairness he comes from a good family and is extremely courteous and polite whenever we have spoken. Certainly not your average chav. He seems to treat my daughter well and makes her happy. So why the f##k do I want to steam in there and take his head off with a baseball bat ?


Obviously my wifes parents went through this with me and came out the other side, but I just wonder how fathers of daughters cope.

i hate girls give me a house full of boys anyday

i believe that these feelings you have stem from remembering your own antics when you were young im young enough to remember fridays and saturday nights when you were at school and every ones all pi55ed up and the girls are like teenage whores putting it about for fun

nobody likes to think of there daughters like this (or even getting a boyfriend cos we all know where it leads) and i always prayed i wouldnt have any daughters for the very reason ( i have 2 boys thank ~~~~ ) but i inherited a daughter when i left my ex who is a right cow and an absolute pain in the ar*e but i still feel protective even tho she's not mine and it all stems from my own youth mainly

i dont think any man likes the thought of anybody taking their daughters innocence

[caveman_nige]

I am gonna lock my daughter away and kick the ~~~~ out of any guy that comes near her... no honestly, its a hard thing to let em go though i have a long way to go yet before that day but i am trying not to think about it.. I remember meeting my wife's father for dinner the first time... All that was going through my head was that he would be thinking something like 'so your the w***er that getting in my daughters pants, unless you marry her i am gonna ~~~~ you up'. Now i will oneday know exactly what he was thinking..

[jasbo7]

the previous post all ring true...I have 2 girls 17 today and the other 20 in april....youngest just jumped into a strange mans car ffs....(driving instructor) pfwee.....the wifes comment was do you think she'll be ok...the oldest has a b/f of 2 years and no a bad lad...when i go to bed i sometimes strain the old lugs and think to mysel...i used to do that...it's all part of growing up and we love them to bits

[bei0759]

i hated kid before.. but now i think i am prepared to have my own kids