Does marriage matter any more?

[Canker_Canison]

So why are you not getting married?

If you feel that you love your partner that much, that taking your vows will make no difference. And, it's not a monetary reason, as you are aware it will make no difference. Except in your tax allowance.

Why?

[Rodbouy]

I for one doen think it matters. I have been with my partner for 11 years this year. In the last 7 years we bought our own house but living together for 9 years. we have had 3 kids, (4, 2, and 3months old) and still happy.

Marriage costs money and we both would rather spend every penny on the 3 kids we have the now.

I know of 4 or 5 couples who jumped in and spend the 15k+ on a wedding and have split up inside 24 months.

So does being married make a difference ? or is it just another elaborate day out.

One day we might get married abroad while on holiday while the kids are there etc but its essential.

As long as your both happy and have other commitments like kids then who cares if its legally binding or that ring is there to show it.

Does that bit of paper or ring stop them from going their seperate ways ?

No

Do we need that just to prove how much we love our partner ?

No

[masur123]

After growing up with parents in a relationship that was doomed to failure, and subsequently going through a very messy divorce and having to make some very hard choices, I would never consider marriage. For me if you are happy with someone you dont need the whole marriage thing to prove to people you love somoene, the act of co-habiting and providing for each other is enough.

My reasons as posted earlier

[tshirtman]

marriage has it's benefits if you have children, being married automatically gives the man parental responsibility, where just living together, the man doesn't have equal rights for his children, (unless your child was born after 2003, and your named on the birth certificate),

I wonder how many people on here, who are living together, have a joint bank account, i think this can show just as much commitment as getting married

[masur123]

marriage has it's benefits if you have children, being married automatically gives the man parental responsibility, where just living together, the man doesn't have equal rights for his children, (unless your child was born after 2003, and your named on the birth certificate),

I wonder how many people on here, who are living together, have a joint bank account, i think this can show just as much commitment as getting married

I have a joint bank account with my beloved, and it is also in the black

[vinit9]

I don't think weddings mean much any more all these people having affairs and stuff might as well be single ..

[trylead]

Yes and even if for just one reason, a friend of mine died recently and it turned out that at 70yrs old he and his "wife" of 35 years had never actually married.
The problems this caused over his company pension has yet to be resolved.

[masur123]

For this to be a problem, one must have a company pension of course.