Should older women date younger men?

[gc1966]

i appreciate your opposing view and commend you on your right to speak openly about it.i hope that you would see that i too was doing nothing more than exercising that right also, but must now concede that i was wrong,

in future i will only re-inforce your viewpoint.

please accept my most heartfelt apologies

[ChelseaBun]

i appreciate your opposing view and commend you on your right to speak openly about it.i hope that you would see that i too was doing nothing more than exercising that right also, but must now concede that i was wrong,

in future i will only re-inforce your viewpoint.

please accept my most heartfelt apologies

between havin a kid and not long being a kid myself, topics on peado's and/ or teenagers is something i can get quite heated about, and i just end up going off topic completley.

You don't need to apologise, its just in my beliefs that the term pedophile is not a word to be used loosely.

[MrFug]

I totally agree Chelsea.

Comparing someone in a relationship with a 17-year old to a paedophile shows a dangerous lack of knowledge, and lets face it, common sense.

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[garry1312]

I dont agree or disagree with this relationship. Is it a relationship I would want for my own son most likely not.

It's there choice and if there happy that is what counts. It may not work but at the same time it might work. Maybe there not even in it for a long term relationship maybe its a bit of fun and they will see were that takes them.

She is not a peadophile or close and the reason for that is she is breaking no law. The law is in place for a reason and 16 and above is what the law accepts even if people dont agree with that that's the way it is and the law determines what makes a peadophile.

If this was a older guy with a younger woman would we be having the same debate or would it be 'he deserves a pat on the back' .

[gc1966]

thx for your reply,
being 45 years old with 17 year old teenagers and all the hormones they possess,i feel guidance is a pre requisate where they are concerned,if mine came home with some one of 32 years standing on this planet, i would certainly question their moral standpoint.
maybe the term paedo was not correct in this context but exploitation of this age group by someone much older is something i get heated about.


i feel that the gender is neither here nor there,male or female,in my eyes it is wrong

[Canker_Canison]

I dont agree or disagree with this relationship. Is it a relationship I would want for my own son most likely not.

She is not a peadophile or close and the reason for that is she is breaking no law. The law is in place for a reason and 16 and above is what the law accepts even if people dont agree with that that's the way it is and the law determines what makes a peadophile.

I don't want to cause more issues here, but here are a few of my thoughts....

Is it a relationship I would want for my own son, most likely not.

A strange one, but I feel more people would be offended if it was their daughter seeing the much older man. Myself, I enjoyed my time...we all have to learn these things somewhere. Don't know how my parents would of reacted if they had known.


The second part in the quote is acurate as far as UK law goes. But in some US states laws have been passed to stop relationships/sexual encounters between people based on difference in age.
Not so strangely, it's some of the southern states that have introduced those laws.

I'd have to look it up, but I think it covers people under the age of 21 & puts a maximum age difference of +8 years. After the age of 21, anything goes.

[garry1312]

As mentioned if my son at 17 came home with a much older woman I dont think it is something I would be very impressed with.

My reasons for not liking it would be that I would be worried that someone of such a older age would hold him back and stop him from enjoying the things he should be enjoying at his age.

Think the same with gender if it was the opposite way around and I had a daughter I would still have the same views on it.

Another thing at the age of 17 you are going to make mistakes but you learn from them.

[lagerland]

You got remember we was all 17 once allthough its a long time ago 4 me now and i dont think they would see it as mssing out. As i recall at that age it was anything and everything we have no capacity for logical thought at that age or any other according to Mrs LL.............

[ChelseaBun]

garry, that doesn't say much for you. i was 16 when we met.

i wouldn't say i've been held back or made a mistake

[Canker_Canison]

Something just hit me.

My dad's engaged to someone only 3-4 years older than me.

I don't get freaked out over it, it's just wierd.

[garry1312]

garry, that doesn't say much for you. i was 16 when we met.

i wouldn't say i've been held back or made a mistake

Your talkng 4 years between us. There is a difference between 4 years and 15 years.

[gc1966]

oh shite
we have started a domestic now

see,the power of the interweb,internet forums are evil

[ChelseaBun]

Your talkng 4 years between us. There is a difference between 4 years and 15 years.

Make up your mind on what you don't agree on and stick to it.

Either its the age gap, or the age he is.

People dont have to be of a certain age to hold other people back life.

[ChelseaBun]

oh and theres actually 5 years between us

[garry1312]

4-5 whatever .

So your saying if our son at 17 came home with a woman of 34 years of age, you would be over the moon?