Marriage?

[jasbo7]

awwwwwwww bless im filling up here

your right m8 tho it is scary for blokes i always seen it as a bit poncey its a woman thing marriage churches,dresses and all that polava but if you meet the right one and it makes em happy why not marry them

you just hit the nail on the head red....finding the right ONE

[patkins]

I had a damn good time up to about 30 years of age and all I can say is that I got a calling (something inside) to say it was time to get settled. Met Sally, got married (25 yrs this year) and am happy with my lot. People are conditioned to their times by Political correctness so it becomes `the norm` for people to live together and have kids outside of marriage or for the town bike to have 14 kids ,be referred to as a single mother and be better financed than the co-habitating couple whether they are married or not. I have no difficulty with people who live together and have kids. What I do have issues with is the above named town bike and having to pay for some other fathers kids by her.

[Lainie]

i agree with berley you do grow up with the same values as your parents. my natural mother had me adopted when she had me 44 yrs ago as it was shamefull to be a single mother. i know times have vastly changed but maybe if society was stricter and more people had morals we would be in the state we are in today. however i am horrified by the likes of ulrika (4 x 4). 4 different dads to 4 kids is just wrong.

i too married for love howeve the system shafted me for all the 20 yrs i was married as i had no kids and he couldnt work (heart valve op) i even had to pay his poll tax for him - full whack not rebated etc as i worked full time. so unfortuntely financial matters do matter for me as ive never had 2 incomes coming into the home.

[chroma]

Post divorce i realised that prostitution would have netted me more sex and have been far, far cheaper.

Peoples first instinct nowadays as soon as there is a problem is to run away, bunch of god damned pansies too afraid to work through the hard stuff. Marriage isnt "easy" and ive found that most people nowadays cant handle the path of least resistance.

I dont even know where it alll went wrong for me, simply because the war cry of "i want a divorce" seemed easier to her than "can we talk."

Im fully for marriage but undeer no allusions that its an easy road. Nothing trully worthwhile ever really is though and both parties need to realise that its always going to be a work in progress.

[berley]

i too married for love howeve the system shafted me for all the 20 yrs i was married as i had no kids and he couldnt work (heart valve op) i even had to pay his poll tax for him - full whack not rebated etc as i worked full time. so unfortuntely financial matters do matter for me as ive never had 2 incomes coming into the home.

While it couldn't have been easy for you lainie I don?t understand why you say you were shafted, is it because you had no kids or because you had to pay his poll tax ?

Either way for the first 15 years of my marriage, we also only had one wage coming in, but Bill also had to pay my poll tax as I had no income. Over and above that his wage had to look after me and the kids, apart from family allowance we never got a penny from the ?system? as bills wage at the time was just above anything we could claimed for.

If your married it?s always been that way regardless of who the bread winner is.

[Lainie]

shafted because i had to pay his poll tax. if i wasnt his wife i wouldnt have had too. we never got housing benefit or council tax benefit as no kids. i had to work all the overtime i could to pay for a holiday as i needed a break. im now on an even lower salary as i started at the bottom of the pay scale when i started my new job and if him and i were still together he would get no benefit as i work over 24 hrs a week. dont get me wrong thousands and thousands prob similar circumstances to myself. the new benefit /tax credit system sucks. i know we had to promote the british family but what about promoting marriage - its dying out.

compare what you got to bring up your family too what help single mothers (and some families) get nowadays. like you say you hardly got any help either. my sister was divorced and worked but didnt get any help. well i think she got lone parent benefit of ?6 a week whoopee. nowadays its too easy. they chuck money at them.

i had a person claiming benefit the other day with 4 kids all under 10, neither had worked for years (too sick to work but not too sick to have several kids and run around after them etc )and they got over ?150 a week in ctc alone!! now wheres the justice in that.

i am all for marriage and would like to think that maybe one day in the future i will get married again.

[berley]

shafted because i had to pay his poll tax. if i wasnt his wife i wouldnt have had too.

You sound more bitter than anything else, don?t get me wrong you probably have good reason to be seeing as your marriage didn?t work, but what I was pointing out was that you were treated no differently to a man in the same position.

compare what you got to bring up your family too what help single mothers (and some families) get nowadays. like you say you hardly got any help either. my sister was divorced and worked but didnt get any help. well i think she got lone parent benefit of ?6 a week whoopee. nowadays its too easy. they chuck money at them.

It wasn?t so different when I didn?t work, by the time bill took into account his travelling expenses and us paying full rent council tax, school dinners etc, single mothers or families on the dole probably ended up with as much money at the end of the day as we did. But the example we set our children couldn?t be put into monetary terms. Sadly it?s a growing trend that it?s sometimes easier to sit on your ass and let everyone else pay for you, but we were well aware of all these things before we committed to getting married and having children.

i am all for marriage and would like to think that maybe one day in the future i will get married again.

I hope you do and if it's to D remember to send out my wedding invitation in plenty of time

[Lainie]

not bitter cause my marriage broke down as that had nothing to do with money. it does agitates me when i read stories in the paper etc re others getting more benefit than my wages (as thousands of other hard working people feel) and as a tax payer i feel i have the right to be however i dont want this to turn into another benefits debate.

[cgscott]

Thats the Lovely Britain us as Voters created and politicians reeped theyre humble rewards from.

Lets hope this election things go another way.

[koppit]

wish i was getting wed tomorrow i wouldnt ~~~~in turn up

yea we seen your missus too m8